Today 31.05 is my 41st birthday. Time flies. Again it's another year older and am a wiser lot now. As usual, my kids wish me `Happy Birthday' and my ever loving and supportive wife, too but by e-mail electronic card. She is technology advance!.
As a tradition, my breakfast comes with 2 ( Only 2, and i wonder why not more ??) red boiled eggs and dumpling too. In fact, dumpling day it's my `Chinese calendar' birthday. I'm yet to find out the date which falls under `Indian calendar'.
well, i sincerely hope my work, career will achieving great success and my wish is to complete my current project by end of November and of course stay healthly!
Sunday, May 31, 2009
Emotional Intelligence (EQ) vs. Intellectual Intelligence (IQ)
Soon Koh: Leaders must have high IQ and EQ
The young leaders of Sarawak United People’s Party should try to improve their intelligent quotient (IQ) as well as their emotional quotient (EQ) if they aim to become leaders of the future.
This advice was made by Dato’ Sri Wong Soon Koh in his address at the installation ceremony of SUPP Sibu BranchYoung Women’s Wing last Sunday night.
Wong said that being a leader, one has to have such qualities not only to cope with the demands as a leader, but also to command the respect of the followers.
“ In any organization, where people are involved, change in leadership is a natural progression.
“ This is what we can see tonight, where new leaders of tomorrow are being groomed. As such, you need to seek to improve your IQ and EQ to cope with the demands of being leaders of tomorrow,” he pointed out
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YB,
EQ is more important than IQ in determining how successful we are. In addition, one’s cultural and family background offer habits and outlooks that, given fortunate historical circumstances, can make some people highly successful; argued Malcolm Gladwell, the author of Outliers.
The choice of President Barrack Obama of Sonia Sotomayor as his nominee for the Supreme Court is another warm story that will melt hearts despite her struggling background including the one about a black boy who becomes the most powerful man on earth.
Success: The Rest of the Story by Daniel Goleman
In his fascinating new book Outliers: The Story of Success, Malcolm Gladwell makes a strong case that people owe their success to a lot more than IQ. He reviews data and offers convincing cases to show that above an IQ in the neighborhood of 110-115, IQ fails as a predictor of success in a career. In other words, you need to be smart enough to handle the cognitive complexity of the information you need for a given role or job, be it engineering, law, medicine, or business. That’s the IQ around 115. But after reaching that threshold of “smart enough,” your intellect makes little difference.
That explains why, when Harvard’s Howard Gardner reviewed longitudinal data that follows people from their early years into their career, he concluded that IQ alone predicts just 6 to 10 percent of career success. That leaves lots of room for other factors, like luck and circumstance. Gladwell makes the case for these very factors, arguing that one’s cultural and family background offer habits and outlooks that, given fortunate historical circumstances, can make some people highly successful
Emotional Intelligence (EQ) vs. Intellectual Intelligence (IQ)
Most of us have learned not to trust our emotions. We've been told emotions distort the more “accurate” information our intellect supplies. Even the term “emotional” has come to mean weak, out of control, and even childish. "Don't be a baby!" we say to the little boy who is crying on the playground. "Leave him alone! Let him work it out!" we admonish the little girl who runs to help the little boy.
On the other hand, our abilities to memorize and problem-solve, to spell words and do mathematical calculations, are easily measured on written tests and slapped as grades on report cards. Ultimately, these intellectual abilities dictate which college will accept us and which career paths we‘re advised to follow.
However, intellectual intelligence (IQ) is usually less important in determining how successful we are than emotional intelligence (EQ). We all know people who are academically brilliant and yet are socially inept and unsuccessful. What they are missing is emotional intelligence.
What is emotional intelligence?
Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify, use, understand, and manage your emotions in positive and constructive ways. It's about recognizing your own emotional state and the emotional states of others. Emotional intelligence is also about engaging with others in ways that draw people to you.
Self-awareness — The ability to recognize your own emotions and how they affect your thoughts and behavior; know your strengths and weaknesses; and have self-confidence.
Self-management — The ability to control impulsive feelings and behaviors; manage your emotions in healthy ways; take initiative; follow through on commitments; and adapt to changing circumstances.
Social awareness — The ability to understand the emotions, needs, and concerns of other people; pick up on emotional cues; feel comfortable socially; and recognize the power dynamics in a group or organization.
Relationship management — The ability to develop and maintain good relationships; communicate clearly; inspire and influence others; work well in a team; and manage conflict.
The Success Of Sonia Sotomayor
Her background;…….
Her father died when she was 9, and her mother worked two jobs to support her and her brother to good schools. She was brought up in a rough neighbourhood but she managed to join the finest universities in the land, Princeton and Yale, and the rest is history; an all-American girl achieving an American dream.
To add drama to her life story, we are told that she found it hard at first to adjust to campus life, which was eons away from the harsh realities of the Bronx.
It is a warm story that will melt hearts. There are many such stories around us, including the one about a black boy who becomes the most powerful man on earth. We need those stories not just to motivate us but, also to remind us that these people faced insurmountable odds to get to where they are. For many of them, success did not come easy. Success comes with tears, determination and sheer hard work.
Remember, to all those successful people, there always the unsung heroes behind those who succeed. In Sonia’s case, it’s her mother.
The young leaders of Sarawak United People’s Party should try to improve their intelligent quotient (IQ) as well as their emotional quotient (EQ) if they aim to become leaders of the future.
This advice was made by Dato’ Sri Wong Soon Koh in his address at the installation ceremony of SUPP Sibu BranchYoung Women’s Wing last Sunday night.
Wong said that being a leader, one has to have such qualities not only to cope with the demands as a leader, but also to command the respect of the followers.
“ In any organization, where people are involved, change in leadership is a natural progression.
“ This is what we can see tonight, where new leaders of tomorrow are being groomed. As such, you need to seek to improve your IQ and EQ to cope with the demands of being leaders of tomorrow,” he pointed out
-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
YB,
EQ is more important than IQ in determining how successful we are. In addition, one’s cultural and family background offer habits and outlooks that, given fortunate historical circumstances, can make some people highly successful; argued Malcolm Gladwell, the author of Outliers.
The choice of President Barrack Obama of Sonia Sotomayor as his nominee for the Supreme Court is another warm story that will melt hearts despite her struggling background including the one about a black boy who becomes the most powerful man on earth.
Success: The Rest of the Story by Daniel Goleman
In his fascinating new book Outliers: The Story of Success, Malcolm Gladwell makes a strong case that people owe their success to a lot more than IQ. He reviews data and offers convincing cases to show that above an IQ in the neighborhood of 110-115, IQ fails as a predictor of success in a career. In other words, you need to be smart enough to handle the cognitive complexity of the information you need for a given role or job, be it engineering, law, medicine, or business. That’s the IQ around 115. But after reaching that threshold of “smart enough,” your intellect makes little difference.
That explains why, when Harvard’s Howard Gardner reviewed longitudinal data that follows people from their early years into their career, he concluded that IQ alone predicts just 6 to 10 percent of career success. That leaves lots of room for other factors, like luck and circumstance. Gladwell makes the case for these very factors, arguing that one’s cultural and family background offer habits and outlooks that, given fortunate historical circumstances, can make some people highly successful
Emotional Intelligence (EQ) vs. Intellectual Intelligence (IQ)
Most of us have learned not to trust our emotions. We've been told emotions distort the more “accurate” information our intellect supplies. Even the term “emotional” has come to mean weak, out of control, and even childish. "Don't be a baby!" we say to the little boy who is crying on the playground. "Leave him alone! Let him work it out!" we admonish the little girl who runs to help the little boy.
On the other hand, our abilities to memorize and problem-solve, to spell words and do mathematical calculations, are easily measured on written tests and slapped as grades on report cards. Ultimately, these intellectual abilities dictate which college will accept us and which career paths we‘re advised to follow.
However, intellectual intelligence (IQ) is usually less important in determining how successful we are than emotional intelligence (EQ). We all know people who are academically brilliant and yet are socially inept and unsuccessful. What they are missing is emotional intelligence.
What is emotional intelligence?
Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify, use, understand, and manage your emotions in positive and constructive ways. It's about recognizing your own emotional state and the emotional states of others. Emotional intelligence is also about engaging with others in ways that draw people to you.
Self-awareness — The ability to recognize your own emotions and how they affect your thoughts and behavior; know your strengths and weaknesses; and have self-confidence.
Self-management — The ability to control impulsive feelings and behaviors; manage your emotions in healthy ways; take initiative; follow through on commitments; and adapt to changing circumstances.
Social awareness — The ability to understand the emotions, needs, and concerns of other people; pick up on emotional cues; feel comfortable socially; and recognize the power dynamics in a group or organization.
Relationship management — The ability to develop and maintain good relationships; communicate clearly; inspire and influence others; work well in a team; and manage conflict.
The Success Of Sonia Sotomayor
Her background;…….
Her father died when she was 9, and her mother worked two jobs to support her and her brother to good schools. She was brought up in a rough neighbourhood but she managed to join the finest universities in the land, Princeton and Yale, and the rest is history; an all-American girl achieving an American dream.
To add drama to her life story, we are told that she found it hard at first to adjust to campus life, which was eons away from the harsh realities of the Bronx.
It is a warm story that will melt hearts. There are many such stories around us, including the one about a black boy who becomes the most powerful man on earth. We need those stories not just to motivate us but, also to remind us that these people faced insurmountable odds to get to where they are. For many of them, success did not come easy. Success comes with tears, determination and sheer hard work.
Remember, to all those successful people, there always the unsung heroes behind those who succeed. In Sonia’s case, it’s her mother.
Thursday, May 21, 2009
Light in the face of problems
Of late, an increasing desire to deliver no matter what happens, coupled with the compulsion to fulfil targets, keep deadlines and meet demands is making the hard pressed urbanite walk on high tension wires!
Certain professions can aggravate a latent problem in a person.
When the outcome of one’s work is dependent on factors not directly under one’s control, there is frustration and stress. ( that’s my situation I’m facing right now)
The more the number of variables, the more the possibility of anxiety and stress- related disorders. There is no joy in life.
In professions where there are goals to follow and targets to attain, if one is unable to cope with the demands, one often succumbs to the pressure. .( that’s another situation I’m in )
Variables like more and more people joining at the same level and market competition, are not under one’s control.
Life is dependent and also interdependent. In groups, we learn to live and experience its various tenets and facets.
Knowing your abilities and needs is important. Being smart alone is not enough. There are many smart people around but there is no tolerance, patience or flexibility.
These are qualities that can take one far. Most important is that we should enjoy doing whatever we are doing now.
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Thought for reflection:
Always pay attention, and there will be no tension. You will remain light in the face of problems.
Certain professions can aggravate a latent problem in a person.
When the outcome of one’s work is dependent on factors not directly under one’s control, there is frustration and stress. ( that’s my situation I’m facing right now)
The more the number of variables, the more the possibility of anxiety and stress- related disorders. There is no joy in life.
In professions where there are goals to follow and targets to attain, if one is unable to cope with the demands, one often succumbs to the pressure. .( that’s another situation I’m in )
Variables like more and more people joining at the same level and market competition, are not under one’s control.
Life is dependent and also interdependent. In groups, we learn to live and experience its various tenets and facets.
Knowing your abilities and needs is important. Being smart alone is not enough. There are many smart people around but there is no tolerance, patience or flexibility.
These are qualities that can take one far. Most important is that we should enjoy doing whatever we are doing now.
……………………………………………………………………………………………
Thought for reflection:
Always pay attention, and there will be no tension. You will remain light in the face of problems.
Saturday, May 9, 2009
One Moment listen please
The Moment you are in Tension
You will lose your Attention
Then you are in total Confusion And you will feel Irritation
Then you will spoil personal Relation
Ultimately, you won't get Co - Operation Then you will make thingsfull of Complication
Then your blood pressure may raise
Caution And you may have to take Medication Instead, try tounderstandthe Situation And try to think of a Solution
Many problems will be solved by Discussion This will work out better for your Profession
Don't think it's my free Suggestion It's only for your Prevention If you understand my Intention You will never come again to Tension
You will lose your Attention
Then you are in total Confusion And you will feel Irritation
Then you will spoil personal Relation
Ultimately, you won't get Co - Operation Then you will make thingsfull of Complication
Then your blood pressure may raise
Caution And you may have to take Medication Instead, try tounderstandthe Situation And try to think of a Solution
Many problems will be solved by Discussion This will work out better for your Profession
Don't think it's my free Suggestion It's only for your Prevention If you understand my Intention You will never come again to Tension
George Carlin on aging!
Do you realize that the only time in our lives when we like to get old is when we're kids? If you're less than 10 years old, you're so excited about aging that you think in fractions.
'How old are you?' 'I'm four and a half!' You're never thirty-six and a half. You're four and a half, going on five! That's the key
You get into your teens, now they can't hold you back. You jump to the next number, or even a few ahead.
'How old are you?' 'I'm gonna be 16!' You could be 13, but hey, you're gonna be 16! And then the greatest day of your life ! You become 21. Even the words sound like a ceremony. YOU BECOME 21. YESSSS!!!
But then you turn 30. Oooohh, what happened there? Makes you sound like bad milk! He TURNED; we had to throw him out. There's no fun now, you're Just a sour-dumpling. What's wrong? What's changed?
You BECOME 21, you TURN 30, then you're PUSHING 40. Whoa! Put on the brakes, it's all slipping away. Before you know it, you REACH 50 and your dreams are gone.
But wait!!! You MAKE it to 60. You didn't think you would!
So you BECOME 21, TURN 30, PUSH 40, REACH 50 and MAKE it to 60.
You've built up so much speed that you HIT 70! After that it's a day-by-day thing; you HIT Wednesday!
You get into your 80's and every day is a complete cycle; you HIT lunch; you TURN 4:30; you REACH bedtime. And it doesn't end there. Into the 90s, you start going backwards; 'I Was JUST 92.'
Then a strange thing happens. If you make it over 100, you become a little kid again. 'I'm 100 and a half!'
May you all make it to a healthy 100 and a half!!
HOW TO STAY YOUNG
1. Throw out nonessential numbers. This includes age, weight and height. Let the doctors worry about them. That is why you pay 'them.'
2. Keep only cheerful friends. The grouches pull you down.
3. Keep learning. Learn more about the computer, crafts, gardening, whatever. Never let the brain idle. 'An idle mind is the devil's workshop.' And the devil's name is Alzheimer's.
4. Enjoy the simple things.
5. Laugh often, long and loud. Laugh until you gasp for breath.
6. The tears happen. Endure, grieve, and move on. The only person, who is with us our entire life, is ourselves. Be ALIVE while you are alive.
7. Surround yourself with what you love , whether it's family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, hobbies, whatever. Your home is your refuge.
8. Cherish your health: If it is good, preserve it. If it is unstable, improve it. If it is beyond what you can improve, get help.
9. Don't take guilt trips. Take a trip to the mall, even to the next county; to a foreign country but NOT to where the guilt is.
10. Tell the people you love that you love them , at every opportunity. AND ALWAYS REMEMBER :Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away
'How old are you?' 'I'm four and a half!' You're never thirty-six and a half. You're four and a half, going on five! That's the key
You get into your teens, now they can't hold you back. You jump to the next number, or even a few ahead.
'How old are you?' 'I'm gonna be 16!' You could be 13, but hey, you're gonna be 16! And then the greatest day of your life ! You become 21. Even the words sound like a ceremony. YOU BECOME 21. YESSSS!!!
But then you turn 30. Oooohh, what happened there? Makes you sound like bad milk! He TURNED; we had to throw him out. There's no fun now, you're Just a sour-dumpling. What's wrong? What's changed?
You BECOME 21, you TURN 30, then you're PUSHING 40. Whoa! Put on the brakes, it's all slipping away. Before you know it, you REACH 50 and your dreams are gone.
But wait!!! You MAKE it to 60. You didn't think you would!
So you BECOME 21, TURN 30, PUSH 40, REACH 50 and MAKE it to 60.
You've built up so much speed that you HIT 70! After that it's a day-by-day thing; you HIT Wednesday!
You get into your 80's and every day is a complete cycle; you HIT lunch; you TURN 4:30; you REACH bedtime. And it doesn't end there. Into the 90s, you start going backwards; 'I Was JUST 92.'
Then a strange thing happens. If you make it over 100, you become a little kid again. 'I'm 100 and a half!'
May you all make it to a healthy 100 and a half!!
HOW TO STAY YOUNG
1. Throw out nonessential numbers. This includes age, weight and height. Let the doctors worry about them. That is why you pay 'them.'
2. Keep only cheerful friends. The grouches pull you down.
3. Keep learning. Learn more about the computer, crafts, gardening, whatever. Never let the brain idle. 'An idle mind is the devil's workshop.' And the devil's name is Alzheimer's.
4. Enjoy the simple things.
5. Laugh often, long and loud. Laugh until you gasp for breath.
6. The tears happen. Endure, grieve, and move on. The only person, who is with us our entire life, is ourselves. Be ALIVE while you are alive.
7. Surround yourself with what you love , whether it's family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, hobbies, whatever. Your home is your refuge.
8. Cherish your health: If it is good, preserve it. If it is unstable, improve it. If it is beyond what you can improve, get help.
9. Don't take guilt trips. Take a trip to the mall, even to the next county; to a foreign country but NOT to where the guilt is.
10. Tell the people you love that you love them , at every opportunity. AND ALWAYS REMEMBER :Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away
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